Thursday, July 3, 2014

Best Bra According Your Attire to atrack your man

A bra is one of the important parts of a woman’s wardrobe. Although it is hidden from view most of time, it is part of the outfit. There are many points to be taken when purchasingbras. We should all choose bras carefully with our outfit to make sure that they match. Every woman should own at least ten of them and choose the best brasfor different tops and occasions. Many times women will let the price and color become the deciding factors, here are seven facts influence your purchasing the right bra.

1. It is important to know your bra size. To determine bra size you can have yourself measured by professional lingerie fitter at a lingerie store. Or, you can also measure yourself at home.

2. If you are large breasted women (34 C or above), get minimizer bras are the best bras because it will de-emphasize the breasts by compressing them close to the body thus creating the illusion of small breasts. Full cup or full coverage bras are better because it provides more support for the weight.

3. If you are small breasted women, get Push Up Bras are the best bras, because it will enhance your cleavage, and most push-up bras are padded for further enhancement. Avoid those bras that have wide shoulder straps since they generally work better with larger busts.

4. Wear T-Shirt Bras when you are wearing tight t-shirts. These are designed without raised seams, so that a tight t-shirt may be worn without the bra being visible.

5. Don’t wear Printed Bras under a sheer white t-shirt. Nude bras are a must have because it will disappear under your shirt.

6. Wear the dark tops when you are wearing printed bras. They will not be shown through.

7. It is good to have several different types of bras in your wardrobe so that you can easily find the best bras for every top and occasion.

Bra Care Tips:- Hand washing is preferred. Every bra is unique, withdifferent fabrics, trims and recommended care.

Wednesday, July 2, 2014

Pregnancy & Lingerie: Breasts, Nursing Bras, and Body Image Post-Partum

Today’s article is a guest post from June of Braless in Brasil. June is a breastfeeding, working mom of two who started to fall in love with lingerie when she lost over 80 pounds and realized Brazil didn’t carry anything in her size…so she turned to the internet and became obsessed. June’s favorite brands are Ewa Michalak, Fantasie, Decent Exposures, Freya Active and Curvy Kate and she wears a size 32J thru 36K. You can follow Braless in Brasil on Facebook andTwitter.

Pregnancy is a life changing experience in more ways than one. Not only do you get a new addition to your family but you go through probably the biggest change your body will experience ever. Some women walk away almost unscathed, especially if they are young, but for the majority of us our bodies are different post-partum and we have different lingerie needs- especially if we decide to breastfeed.
Changes in the Breasts

What you might not know is that the changes in our breasts occur whether we breastfeed or not. During pregnancy you typically increase both in band and cup size. Some women don’t have any increase in size (don’t worry this does not signify if you’ll be able to nurse or not!*) and others increase A LOT (personally, I went up 5 cup sizes and 2 band sizes!!). It boils down to genetics, how much weight you gain, and where you typically gain weight. It can also vary between pregnancies AND it depends on if you’re having a boy or a girl. Turns out girl babies cause you to gain more weight in your breasts than boy babies! Additionally, your areola enlarge and they darken (although again it depends on skin color and genetics to what extent this happens. I didn’t see much darkening but I’m also very light skinned).

In terms of development of breasts, your breast (from a medical standpoint) is not considered to be fully matured until you undergo a pregnancy and your body initiates lactation. There are certainly changes that I’ve found in my breasts post-partum (even well after I weaned my oldest daughter): my breasts are significantly softer, the nipples are longer, and I’m more bottom heavy. I’m honestly not sure if my overall cup size increased or decrease because my weight has fluctuated too much in that time frame. Some women do see an overall increase in their cup size that remains even after weaning, others don’t.

Post-Partum Expectations and Nursing Bras

Immediately after giving birth is an especially sensitive time for your breasts. You’ll produce colostrum, which can last up to 7 days post-partum, depending on when your milk comes in, your nipples are getting used to feeding a newborn who has a small mouth and might not have a perfect latch (make sure to have some lanolin on hand if you plan to nurse!), and you could very well see another increase in cup size or two on top of what you experienced during pregnancy. You might feel a lot more comfortable going topless and/or braless.

If you do want to wear a bra during that time, I’d suggest for looking for a soft cup bra in the most comfortable fabric imaginable. I’ve recently tried Decent Exposures and I highly recommend their bras when it comes to comfort. They have 7 different fabrics that you can choose from, which are some of softest, most comfortable bras on your post-partum breasts. Also, they custom make all their sizes so they will make whatever size that you need (email them for help if you are outside of their listed size range, they will custom make a size for no additional fee). Additionally, for an extra $10 they will turn your nursing bra into a tank.
Decent Exposures

Once your milk comes in you could deal with engorgement because it can take awhile for your breasts to establish the right amount of flow in terms of how much milk your baby needs**. This can take weeks even, so it’s important to let your baby feed on demand at that point to avoid clogged ducts and mastitis (had that, it is NOT fun!) and also to let your body know exactly how much milk your little one needs. Because of the initial engorgement it’s not recommended that you run out and buy a whole slew of new nursing bras during the first week or so post-partum. You can eventually drop a cup size or two once your milk is established and your initial engorgement settles down.

If you’re not planning on breastfeeding much of the advice is the same. You’ll still probably have some initial engorgement so it’s still best to wait some time before buying new bras.

In the meantime, it’s best to wear stretchy, soft cup bras- a cup size or two up from your largest pregnancy size. Underwire bras- even in the right size can run into problems because your milk ducts go quite far back underneath your arms and the underwires can rub there. Especially during the time you’re engorged, this can cause problems. Additionally, a center gore that is too high or too wide can always cause problems and discomfort. It’s also important to have large enough cups on your bras if you’re nursing because a too tight of bra can decrease your milk supply (it’s actually often recommended for women who are trying to dry up their milk supply to wear tight sports bras, for instance).

Don’t fret, eventually your milk supply will go down (or go away if you’re not nursing) and then you can return to bras with underwires. I found that around 4-6 weeks post-partum I was able to wear underwire bras again comfortably but there are some important things to consider when doing so- I’ll get to that in a second! Even if you’re nursing you might find that your breast feel empty at this point. It’s not because yours supply as dried up but, rather, because your body as adjusted to your newborn’s feeding pattern.

As for recommendations of more stylish nursing bras… there’s a lot out there! Cake lingerie is one of the first that comes to mind. They have bras with flexible underwires that are both comfortable and cute.
Cake Lingerie Ginger Macaroon Bra

Of the pre-made more mainstream soft cup bras Freya are my favorite. I especially like the Dotty Black Bra, which I own, and Freya soft cup bras probably give the best uplift that I’ve seen in soft cup bras- even in the higher cup sizes.
Freya Dotty Black Soft Cup Bra

If you’re looking for underwire nursing bras, I’d recommend Ewa Michalak or Comexim. Both will make ANY of their bras into nursing bras for a small additional fee.
Ewa Michalak S Ptys

Comexim Summer Time

Additionally, I’ve found that eventually I prefer to just wear a low-cut plunge bra and scoop my breast tissue out of the cups, once the hang of breastfeeding has been well-established with the baby. For a further discussion of bras and breast changes during pregnancy and beyond see here.
Dealing with the Changes Emotionally

Please remember through it all that you just created a beautiful human being and it took 9 months for you body to do so! Our bodies don’t snap back into place over night. The Alpha Mom has a great timeline for you on what you should expect when it comes to recovery time with your post-partum body. Two points in time that I found especially interesting were that at 6 months:

An Australian study found that women’s dissatisfaction with their postpartum body peaks at around 6 months after giving birth (Jolin 2009).

And that at one year post-partum:

Still not lost all the baby weight? You’re in good company. 60 percent of mothers are still carrying at least a few extra pounds at this stage (Baby Center 2010).

It’s normal to have some dissatisfaction with your body post-partum. It’s different and that’s ok. Remember that the celebrities that you see blasted across the tabloids in a size 2 a few weeks after giving birth are the exception, not the rule. Just because your best friend swears that breastfeeding was “the best diet ever” and you find yourself not losing a pound with it, doesn’t make you any less of a person or a worse mom because of it!

I want to add that a post-partum body can be beautiful! Photographer Jade Beall created a book, ‘A Beautiful Body’ of post-partum moms posing semi-nude with no touch ups- often with their families. The book also includes written accounts of how the moms feel about their bodies and their role as a mother. You can’t tell me that these women aren’t beautiful!
Picture from ‘A Beautiful Body’ by Jade Beall

If you have the money for it, I highly recommend buying new lingerie once your body weight has settled down a bit. Even if you are covered in spit up, a new bra can give you support while you’re pushing around a stroller and give you extra confidence! It’s a way to remind yourself of who you are and who you once were and can give you a piece of self even amongst all the other changes motherhood brings.

*Success at nursing depends on the amount of milk glands you have, not on the amount of supporting fibrous and fatty tissue, which is what determines breast size. There are a very small number of women who struggle with an insufficient amount of milk glands and the condition is known as Insufficient Glandular Tissue. If you feel like this may be the case for you contact a Lactation Consultant, many women are able to successful breastfeed in some manner while still supplementing with formula. See also By Baby’s Rules’ blog for her first hand experience.

**If you’re looking for help when it comes to nursing (whether it be engorgement, lack of supply, feeding advice etc), I’d recommend finding a local breastfeeding/new moms group (the support from other moms post-partum can make a huge difference in your well-being), Le Leche League group, Lactation Consulate or look online to Kellymom.

On Not Wearing Bras Yes, It’s Okay to Go Braless

Here’s a random fact: Did you know there is actually no common medical reason to wear a bra?

That’s right. None. Contrary to popular belief, bras don’t improve breast health, prevent breast sagging, or anything else. Quite simply, there is no agreed upon health benefit to wearing bras that applies to every single woman.

I know it probably seems a bit strange for me to be saying this. After all, I am a lingerie blogger so I should be Team Bra 24/7, right? But I’ve been thinking about the whole bra/no-bra thing for awhile, and some of the language we have around bras (and the women who don’t wear bras) really bothers me.

As much as I love bras (and, as you’ve probably guessed, I really love them), even I don’t wear one everyday. I wore a bra more often when my nipples were pierced, but since I’ve taken the piercings out, I’ve gone back to wearing a bra a lot of (but not all of) the time. Which is fine because no one should feel obligated to wear a bra…in the same way no one should feel obligated to wear a corset or obligated wear a girdle or obligated to wear any underwear at all for that matter.

While I understand that some people may prefer their breast shape with a bra or are more comfortable wearing a bra (for a variety of reasons – heavy breasts, nipple sensitivity, back pain, etc.), that’s a completely different thing from the notion of compulsory bra wearing…i.e. saying every woman has to or should wear a bra. Unfortunately, that latter sentiment (you must wear a bra at all times!) is the general consensus from the society at large, including many facets of the lingerie community. And this article focuses on that social conversation regarding bra wearing.

What’s most interesting to me in about this whole bra/braless conversation is the ideas other people have why a woman might choose to go braless. Bralessness still has a ton of social stigma attached to it. People rarely attribute bralessness to comfort or personal preference; instead, it’s seen as a plea for sexual attention, a political statement, or even a lack of self-care. Why can’t bralessness ever just be an innocent, innocuous choice? Why are women made to feel that theyalways have to wear a bra (and, if we’re in the United Staes, a molded bra which hides your nipples)? It’s a thought-provoking question, and, as some of the illustrations hint at below, the idea that women’s bodies just aren’t good enough on their own is really old-fashioned.

The S-Bend ‘Gibson Girl’ Corset, via Wikipedia

What do I mean? Well, we already know that for several centuries, women wore stays or corsets almost everyday. A woman’s underpinnings were seen as connected to and a reflection of a her morality. I’ve often wondered if the phrase “loose woman” (as in, an “unchaste” or “immoral”woman) has its etymology in corset wearing. After all, the term has been around since the 15th century. Wealthy women could afford the greater restriction of mobility that came with more tightly bound stays. That contrasts to lower class and less affluent women who needed their stays looser to perform hard physical labor.

Not surprisingly, upper class women were also seen as “more” moral and worthy of protection than their poorer counterparts. For centuries, only a woman’s most intimate acquaintances ever saw her without her corset. If one went without a corset (or if the corset was visible), this was a sign of “ill-breeding,” and that woman might be assumed to be an actress, prostitute, or some other lady of ill-repute. In that way, wearing a corset, albeit within the strict rules of society, became a way to advertise that you were a morally upstanding female member of the community…and so eligible for the privileges thereof, including admission to “good” society, a beneficial marriage, and the relative perks of politeness, etiquette, and being “treated like a lady.”

via Super Kawaii Mama

Now let’s fast forward 50 years or so later. By now the bra has been invented (in 1890, 1910, or the 16th century depending on who you read) and so has the girdle. Originally seen as a more comfortable and flexible substitute for the corset, the girdle also replaced the corset’s function as a moral boundary as well. Despite the comparative freedom a girdle offered, a “proper” woman still didn’t let her flesh jiggle or shake unencumbered. Everything had to be tightly restrained within the elastic, mesh, and straps of a foundation garment. Women who “broke the rules” were subject to unsympathetic criticism about both the shape of their bodies and the looseness of their morals. Sounds familiar.

So how is all that relevant today?


Well, despite our current beauty ideal for a soft, rounded, featureless cup shape (hello there, molded t-shirt bras), it’s important to remember that it’s just today’s beauty ideal. There’s no health study and certainly no moral judgment that should give it added weight. If you don’t care for that particular look or you don’t just flat out don’t like bras, that’s fine. It shouldn’t be a character judgment and it’s certainly not a “bad” reflection on who you are. It’s just a personal preference. In the same vein, for every woman, wearing a bra is a personal choice. It is her own decision for her own reasons, and no one else should get to judge.

Often, when I write articles like this, people just read the title and just right ahead to the assumption that I hate bras. But I don’t. However, it’s worth mentioning one more time…if you like wearing a bra, that’s cool. And if you don’t like wearing a bra, that’s still cool. Neither option is any more offensive or troublesome or immoral than wearing or not wearing a sweater.

Spanx on Rachel Ray. Yes. we’re still doing the before/after shot.

I starting thinking about this today because I realized a lot of the conversations I hear about bras are less about how they make the wearer feel and more about how they make the wearer look, particularly to others. Words like, “flattering,” “correct,” and “proper,” are often thrown around…without any consideration or commentary on the implied meaning behind those words. And let’s be clear, whether you’re wearing a bra for fashion or for support, if it helps you feel like the most comfortable, confident, and courageous women you can be, that’s a great thing. Keep on wearing your bras. But the point is, personal preferences matter.

One should never insist that bras are a requirement for every woman. Even if a woman is fuller-busted or happens to share your bra size, that doesn’t mean bras are a necessity for her. And, of course, it’s always a problem when the conversation on bras and bra wearing turns into thinly-disguised body snark. All bodies are fine, regardless of if those bodies wear bras and conform to our notions of beauty or not. The culture of picking apart and shaming women for not wearing a bra needs to stop.

via: Intimacy

I’m also really not okay with framing bras as the cure for sagging breasts (breasts sag eventually; it’s what they do), as a form of instant liposuction (“You’ll look like you’ve lost 10 pounds!”; why should looking thinner be every woman’s goal?), as a way of putting down non-Western women and non-Western beauty standards (everyone who has ever used an old issue of National Geographic to make a point about bras), or as a way of deciding who “deserves” public abuse and humiliation (posting photos of women for the sole purpose of trash-talking them…something I’ve seen even in so-called woman-friendly or body positive communities).

Honestly, it’s all part of the same silly ball of wax women have been dealing with for hundreds of years, “Good women do this. Bad women do that…and the bad women deserve to be punished.”

No doubt, some of you reading this may be thinking, “Well that’s easy for you to say…you’re small-chested! None of this applies to women with larger breasts.” But that misses the point.

One, there are fuller-busted women who prefer going braless. They’re just not as visible or as vocal because we live in a very bra-centric culture and because bralessness has an attached social stigma. Two, the rules for bra-wearing apply to all women with breasts, regardless of which end of the size spectrum they fall on. Even if a smaller-busted woman doesn’t “need” a bra for comfort’s sake or what have you, she’s often encouraged to wear one anyway (often a push-up bra) because her breasts are still seen as inferior and sub-standard. The fact that women with larger busts deal with a different kind of social stigma as a result of going braless is very relevant to this conversation, but the topic applies to all women with breasts, including those who are shamed for having large nipples, assymetric breasts, or ptotic (sagging) breasts. The point is, no matter what kind of breasts you have, it’s always an issue to go without a bra.

However, just to emphasize, if you prefer wearing a bra, for whatever reason, that’s great.

My New Lingerie a.k.a. the Made by Niki ‘Feel”

As you’ve probably noticed, this article isn’t about vilifying bras or starting a no-bra revolution (if it were, I wouldn’t bought that fab Made By Niki pictured above). I still love bras, and I still want to talk about bras. And while the nerd in me is very curious about the flammability of bras, it should be obvious this article isn’t about “bra-burning” either. Instead, I want to emphasize that going without a bra is not the end of the world…and it’s nice to be reminded of that.

The reasons we wear bras are just as much tied to cultural factors as they are to physical ones. It’s just that people often find a conversation on the social issues behind why we do what we do a lot harder than giving a flat medical reason for why we do what we do.Furthermore, this is just a friendly reminder that if you see someone going braless and don’t care for it? Well…is ignoring it really so hard to do? Their breasts literally have nothing to do with you.

One of the other reasons I wanted to have this wear a bra/go braless conversation is because we don’t see very many “normal” breasts anymore. And by normal, I mean how breasts look without a bra. I get emails from readers all the time who think their breasts are the wrong shape or the wrong size or the wrong symmetry when their bosom is really, truly, perfectly average. The only problem here is that we’ve gotten so used to seeing women in bras all the time, that many of us have lost touch of what breasts look like without underwires and contour cups and support slings and all that good stuff.

Victoria’s Secret, fantasy boobs in more ways than one.

To sum it all up, our particular notion of what a woman’s bust should look like is just that…our particular notion. In the 1910′s it was one way, in the 1920′s another, and the in 1950′s still another. Our idea of what a woman’s breasts should look like is not a static, unchanging, “objective” thing. And the fact that “bra fit” is often mentioned in the same sentence with “health” or “medicine” doesn’t mean bras are beyond any sort of question or commentary. Centuries ago, people spoke about the health benefits of corsets, yet women have somehow managed to do fine without them. Lingerie, like all elements of women’s dress, is tied to fashion, and fashion – both its looks and trends – changes over time and in response to social norms of beauty.

Every woman’s breasts are different, even if they don’t fit the mold(ed cup). If you’re a woman who prefers to wear a bra, that’s awesome. And if you’re a woman who prefers to go braless (whether all the time or occasionally), that’s also awesome. Regardless, unlike what the ads of yesteryear or even today would have you believe, you don’t have a “figure problem.” You’ve just got breasts, and they’re fine as is.